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A Real Pain review
To honour their late grandmother's wishes, two Jewish cousins unite for a tense tour of their ancestral homeland of Poland.

Review by Eric Hillis

Directed by: Jesse Eisenberg

Starring: Jesse Eisenberg, Kieran Culkin, Jennifer Grey, Will Sharpe, Kurt Egyiawan, Liza Sadovy, Daniel Oreskes

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"Planes, Trains and Concentration Camps" could serve as an alternative title for A Real PainJesse Eisenberg's second feature as writer/director. Like John Hughes' comedy it pairs two mismatched men on a road trip. One is boisterous to the point of being obnoxious while the other is self-serious and reserved and just wants to get back to his family. The trip here doesn't take in America's Eastern seaboard and MidWest but rather some of the key Polish locations of the Holocaust, but it's as laugh out loud funny as any Hope and Crosby road movie.

A Real Pain review

Following the passing of their beloved grandmother, who survived the Holocaust and fled Poland for New York, cousins David (Eisenberg) and Benji (Kieran Culkin) embark on a pilgrimage to visit her childhood home in the old country (the house they ultimately visit is the real life childhood home of Eisenberg's own Holocaust-surviving grandmother). Before that they will join a Jewish history tour lead by James (a sublime Will Sharpe), a gentile Brit who professes a profound interest in "the Jewish experience" but is quietly self-conscious of his status as a cultural interloper. Also on the tour is wealthy divorcee Marcia (Jennifer Grey); retired couple Diane (Liza Sadovy) and Mark (Daniel Oreskes); and Eloge (Kurt Egyiawan), a survivor of the Rwandan genocide who converted to Judaism after being embraced by the Jewish community of his adopted home of Winnipeg, and ironically the only member of the group who seems in touch with their faith.


Eisenberg's David is the Steve Martin surrogate here, stiff as a board and proud of living a very adult life with a good job, a wife and a child. Culkin's Benji is the John Candy figure: a jobless free-wheeler who lacks a filter, he's the sort of person who can offend someone and subsequently become their new best friend in the space of minutes. Once inseparable, the two cousins have gone their separate ways in recent years, a parting that appears to have stung Benji far more than David. Aware of David's guilt over not keeping in touch, Benji purposely prods his cousin's anxieties, embarrassing him in front of the tour group and dragging him to hotel roofs to share a joint. As the tour progresses Benji becomes increasingly unstable, causing offence and mortifying David. But it becomes clear that Benji is deeply troubled, and that the loss of his grandmother has triggered a profound sadness within him.

A Real Pain review

The odd couple pairing of David and Benji seems initially like an obvious road movie trope but Eisenberg uses his inharmonious protagonists to examine the ways in which descendants of persecuted peoples negotiate the modern world. David is the "model minority" who keeps his heritage at a distance and integrates into society without complaining about his lot. Benji on the other hand is keen to own the pain he has inherited, even if it makes others uncomfortable like when he points out the irony of Jews travelling first class on a train in Poland or when he suggests James has no connection to Jewish culture other than the facts and figures he trots out on each stop of the tour. Benji is the sort of minority that makes white Christians anxious, for if he still carries the trauma of his predecessors shouldn't we carry the guilt of ours?


Eisenberg and Culkin deliver sublime portrayals of two men who have chosen different ways to deal with their inherited grief, each jealous in some way of the path the other has been able to take. Loner Benji can light up a room but is ultimately alone in the world while David struggles to connect with strangers yet has acquired himself a loving wife and son. They both think they want the other's perceived gifts, but do they really? The cousins are made anxious by their mutual presence and yet we get the sense that they're the only people in the world who really understand each other.

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Eisenberg also uses his comedy to interrogate the notion of what constitutes an appropriate way to honour the past. With a grim movie about the Holocaust having become almost an annual tradition around awards time, we're in danger of becoming numb to the point of such movies, and many of us are guilty of kneejerk "Not another Holocaust movie" reactions. In a very Jewish way, Eisenberg suggests that maybe comedy is the best way to honour the dead; that maybe there's nothing wrong with cracking a joke while visiting a site of historical horror; that maybe it's actually the ultimate way of letting the bastards know that despite their best efforts to wipe out your people, here you stand, the unremarkable American grandson of a remarkable Polish woman. This comedy, with its sunny lighting and witty repartee, just might make you think about the Holocaust and its echoes in more profound ways than any well-intentioned black and white concentration camp drama.

A Real Pain is in UK/ROI cinemas from January 8th.



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